There's no secret potion to happiness.
Even though we might wish for it, there's no "open sesame" or magic spell that can instantly conjure happiness out of thin air.
(Ufff, if only…)
But here’s the funny thing: psychologists have discovered that we're actually pretty terrible at figuring out what truly makes us happy. And even with things like income gaps, geography, and culture - people all around the world generally report the same level of happiness.
So, if these external factors don't have a significant impact on our joy, what does?
Personally, the more I ponder the idea of happiness, the more I realize that enthusiasm is the key ingredient.
(And to think that it all started when I reposted this illustration from Michael Dumontier & Neil Farber - if you’re following them, you should)
According to the wise words of Kevin Kelly, co-founder of WIRED, being enthusiastic is like having an extra 25 IQ points in your back pocket.
I couldn't agree more.
Enthusiasm is like a bolt of lightning. It's a power source. It's the kid in us, bursting with vitality, wonder, and joy. When we tap into our enthusiasm, we tap into our inner child - the fearless, curious, and adventurous spirit that knows no bounds.
Just think of it.
Kids tear open the gift wrap, toss the fancy gift aside, and play with the box for hours. They quickly make new friends at the playground and happily invent imaginary games. They're just as thrilled and enthusiastic about playing hopscotch on a sidewalk as they would be skiing down a mountain. Kids don't discriminate when it comes to having fun, and their boundless energy can turn even the simplest activities into an adventure.
Just imagine how much happier we could be if we rekindled those same feelings…
Let's try to do it with a simple exercise.
You know that feeling when you're so caught up in something that time seems to slip away? Like, you look up from your work and suddenly it's dark outside and you're not sure where the day went?
For me, it happens when I'm working on my ceramic projects, writing, or planning a trip. It's like the world fades away; all that matters is that feeling of excitement and purpose. And then there are the simpler moments - like perusing a menu and discovering a dish that sounds so intriguing it makes my mouth water (“grilled octopus with coconut hummus”, anyone?) - that also count.
These moments remind me of the power of enthusiasm.
So think about what makes you feel alive and excited, the things that keep you up late at night or make you forget to eat.
Take a step back and ask yourself:
When was the last time you felt that alive?
When was the last time something stirred your heart and left you breathless? When was the last time you were moved to tears by something beautiful or profound?
The answers, my friend, are the keys to unlocking your happiness. Whether it's the stroke of a paintbrush, the thrill of exploring new destinations or even solving math problems (hey, you never know!), embracing your passions can lead you down the path to fulfillment.
Bottom line: when it comes to finding your happiness, follow the path of enthusiasm. If something lights a fire in your belly and gets you excited, that's a sign you're onto something good. Forget the shoulds and the coulds and the supposed-tos and let your enthusiasm be your guide.
We often think of happiness as something we can achieve and maintain indefinitely. But happiness is actually a dynamic state that requires ongoing effort and commitment. Like a houseplant.
It's important to actively seek out the things that make us happy, whether it's a hobby, spending time with loved ones, or just indulging in some good old-fashioned self-care. Think of it like a happiness workout - you have to put in the effort to see results, but the rewards are well worth it.
🌈Uplifting little things from these last days
Realizing how beautiful Romania is. Cycling around Bucharest. Buying a new Lego set. Enjoying the first fruits of my ceramics project inspired by Iceland. Japanese mochi. This amazing song. Practicing Pilates twice a week. Finally watching The White Lotus. Becoming an “aunt”. Swimming. Planning our summer trips. Feeling genuinely at ease.